Rule #20. Don’t Surprise

Rule #16 explained don’t surprise….It’s my best example of what not to do and why.

I just really want to share a few GOOD surprises I’ve received in 2013.

Surprise #1

Met my first whistle blower!  It was exciting for me to be in the aura of such bravery.  Sometime, when it’s possible, will tell you more, but for now, all I can say is that I love knowing her. Thanks, Lori Capps for introducing us!

Nothing is more dangerous than the TRUTH.


Surprise #2

On the “Country Faith” CD, brain-child of Deborah Evans-Price, I was introduced to artist Jimmy Wayne.  I love, love, love his song, “SHINE”.   It reminds me of dear friend, Debra Brawner – Debra uses the word SHINE regularly — for years I’ve  watched her give others the opportunity to SHINE, me included.  SHINE is Debra’s mantra, and yes, it’s part of why I love his song, AND now, Jimmy Wayne’s music.

 “Country Faith” was my tipping point. 

Remember: It only takes one person to help another SHINE. Who can you help to SHINE today?  tomorrow?  next week?  What will be your tipping point?

Debra Brawner, left with Betty White and ‘friends’ from the Columbus Zoo!Debra and Betty White

Music artist, Jimmy Wayne, sings “SHINE” on the “Country Faith” CD.

Jimmy Wayne

“The Tipping Point”

Tipping Point book

Malcolm Gladwell, author, “The Tipping Point”

Malcolm Gladwell


I don’t miss one. single. episode. of Dr. Phil.  Even watch the reruns on OWN.  This is the first time I can remember being this interested in any television show. I have learned SO MUCH.  His words of wisdom have helped me deal with familial problems since my Mother’s death in 2012.  I understand so much more through his shows about siblings, wills and caregivers.  I am at peace because I know others’  actions have nothing to do with me.  His words, via the shows have given me a peace that only comes with ME doing the gritty work.  I’m on the other side of my hurt now, and joyous with my life.   Surprised at myself, that I’ve actually been able to forgive those who’ve hurt me — and my late Mother — so much.  Blessed.

BUT if I could talk to him, I would ask him to QUIT SAYING  “This is not my first rodeo” over and over and over.  WE KNOW.  WE KNOW.

Dr. Phil

A Night of Honor

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Rule #17 Never Believe Your Own Press


Film Producer Robert Evans says in the December Vanity Fair his most treasured possession is his PRIDE.  Really?  REALLY

Robert Evans twoRobert Evans, today.

Evans has been married seven times but none of his marriages have lasted more than three years and his last project was “Kid Notorious” in 2003. Seems like at 83 he might have learned something?  Guess not.

Robert Evans with Ali McGraw Robert Evans with Ali McGraw, one of his seven wives….

Living in Nashville there was one bank branch I frequented.  When the branch manager left, two employees were vying for the position.  The assistant manager/ applicant said she would leave if not chosen, saying to me  “if you don’t have your pride what do you have?”

She didn’t get the job, and the last time I saw her, she was a cashier at a gas station. (No, I am NOT putting down gas station cashiers…)

Wonder how that pride thing’s workin’ now?

Being prideful is not the same as being proud. We can be proud of someone, something, and we can have pride in same.  Being PRIDEFUL is completely different.  To actually say PRIDE is a most treasured possession? Really pitiful.

I think Robert Evans believed his own press one too many times.  Fame, success are much of the time hard work.  Rewarding, as with achieving anything we set our minds to, but usually difficult.

A client was getting his watch serviced in his hometown jewelry store when a significant watch brand salesman approached him, pulling out a top-of-the-line watch.  He handed to my client and said it was his if he’d wear it.  OF COURSE he would wear it.

Publicists also receive lots of perks, we learn it’s not necessary to always wait in line,  we are usually given great parking places and good seats in restaurants.  Trust me, when I tell you any transition from this life is extremely difficult to adjust, but adjust we must, if we intend to be the most Authentic version of ourselves.

There are few — if speaking honestly — who can say they’ve accomplished everything on their own. It DOES take a village. Parents, doctors, nurses, teachers, friends — we all need support.  If we hold pride as our most valuable possession, then we keep a wall between us and everyone else.  We are not living authentically.  We are believing our own press.   It’s one thing to work our brand, it’s another to live and breathe our brand as if we are nothing without it….we are and we can be.

Many have achieved a balance, Mark Lowry is one of the best examples of Authentic Self.  There were times when I wanted to kill him, we could argue to the moon and back….yes, I argued with the author of Mary, Did You Know.


Another is Deborah Evans Price, she is the same all the time.  SUCH a joy to have as a friend.  Deborah’s latest work is Country Faith.

Country Faith

Deborah, her son, Trey and friend, Brad Paisley.

Deborah Country Weekly What Deborah says about this photo: I just want to say a big “Thank You” to  for running a story on my new book Country Faith. Check out page 49 in the Nov. 4 issue with Brad  Paisley and Carrie Underwood on the cover. I was so excited when I saw this. I was jumping up and down in the check out line at Publix. The full page story includes photos of me and some of the artists in the book, including Carrie and Charlie Daniels. I especially love that they used this shot of my son Trey and I with Brad. Trey’s friends think it’s so cool he’s in CW. I agree!

And Nina Baker, artist of profound work NEVER talks about all her awards, but I want to show her latest award-winning piece of work, Provence Dandelions.

better provence by Nina Come by and see this fabulous work, or visit

See?  Working together gives everyone more opportunity to learn and engage, to win and to be part of another’s journey.   Loving our accomplishments, compliments, kudos is one thing, LIVING in a press release is not authentic.  Let’s don’t be afraid to step out of the image to who we really are, who we can be.  Nothing is more rewarding.
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