Rule #17 Never Believe Your Own Press


Film Producer Robert Evans says in the December Vanity Fair his most treasured possession is his PRIDE.  Really?  REALLY

Robert Evans twoRobert Evans, today.

Evans has been married seven times but none of his marriages have lasted more than three years and his last project was “Kid Notorious” in 2003. Seems like at 83 he might have learned something?  Guess not.

Robert Evans with Ali McGraw Robert Evans with Ali McGraw, one of his seven wives….

Living in Nashville there was one bank branch I frequented.  When the branch manager left, two employees were vying for the position.  The assistant manager/ applicant said she would leave if not chosen, saying to me  “if you don’t have your pride what do you have?”

She didn’t get the job, and the last time I saw her, she was a cashier at a gas station. (No, I am NOT putting down gas station cashiers…)

Wonder how that pride thing’s workin’ now?

Being prideful is not the same as being proud. We can be proud of someone, something, and we can have pride in same.  Being PRIDEFUL is completely different.  To actually say PRIDE is a most treasured possession? Really pitiful.

I think Robert Evans believed his own press one too many times.  Fame, success are much of the time hard work.  Rewarding, as with achieving anything we set our minds to, but usually difficult.

A client was getting his watch serviced in his hometown jewelry store when a significant watch brand salesman approached him, pulling out a top-of-the-line watch.  He handed to my client and said it was his if he’d wear it.  OF COURSE he would wear it.

Publicists also receive lots of perks, we learn it’s not necessary to always wait in line,  we are usually given great parking places and good seats in restaurants.  Trust me, when I tell you any transition from this life is extremely difficult to adjust, but adjust we must, if we intend to be the most Authentic version of ourselves.

There are few — if speaking honestly — who can say they’ve accomplished everything on their own. It DOES take a village. Parents, doctors, nurses, teachers, friends — we all need support.  If we hold pride as our most valuable possession, then we keep a wall between us and everyone else.  We are not living authentically.  We are believing our own press.   It’s one thing to work our brand, it’s another to live and breathe our brand as if we are nothing without it….we are and we can be.

Many have achieved a balance, Mark Lowry is one of the best examples of Authentic Self.  There were times when I wanted to kill him, we could argue to the moon and back….yes, I argued with the author of Mary, Did You Know.


Another is Deborah Evans Price, she is the same all the time.  SUCH a joy to have as a friend.  Deborah’s latest work is Country Faith.

Country Faith

Deborah, her son, Trey and friend, Brad Paisley.

Deborah Country Weekly What Deborah says about this photo: I just want to say a big “Thank You” to  for running a story on my new book Country Faith. Check out page 49 in the Nov. 4 issue with Brad  Paisley and Carrie Underwood on the cover. I was so excited when I saw this. I was jumping up and down in the check out line at Publix. The full page story includes photos of me and some of the artists in the book, including Carrie and Charlie Daniels. I especially love that they used this shot of my son Trey and I with Brad. Trey’s friends think it’s so cool he’s in CW. I agree!

And Nina Baker, artist of profound work NEVER talks about all her awards, but I want to show her latest award-winning piece of work, Provence Dandelions.

better provence by Nina Come by and see this fabulous work, or visit

See?  Working together gives everyone more opportunity to learn and engage, to win and to be part of another’s journey.   Loving our accomplishments, compliments, kudos is one thing, LIVING in a press release is not authentic.  Let’s don’t be afraid to step out of the image to who we really are, who we can be.  Nothing is more rewarding.
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Rule #15 Do the right thing even when no one will know but you.

These posts — haven’t established an editorial calendar yet — my writing, so far, just takes me where it takes me.  Lately it’s had a darker side, yet doesn’t make me sad or upset.  Now it’s just fact, a history of life, my journey.

If you know me, you know I love bargains almost as much as I love Louis Vuitton, I do not spend money frivolously.  I don’t buy schlock.  It’s wasting money.  For example, I paid $400 twenty years ago for a Louis Vuitton bag I still carry today.  When I have the time I’m sending all my Louis Vuitton to Chicago where they will make it like new again.  To me, this is working smart!  (This working smart girl is the same one who misspelled GENIUS in her post yesterday….among other faux pas.)

While I don’t do department store shopping per se, I will race you to Walgreens if I see a bargain in their Sunday circular!  (I get it early now!)

Walgreensand no, Walgreens isn’t paying me!

And I am a magazine freak.  Ask anyone who works with me.  Right now, even after giving away hundreds of magazines, I have a gazillion magazines waiting for me to decide their fate. I have the first twelve issues of O – OPRAH, each in it’s own sealed plastic bag for posterity!  I still regret giving away my Vanity Fair magazines some ten years ago. And I think I would frame every issue of Cottage Journal  if it didn’t make me look like an total idiot.

Cottage Journal This issue of Cottage Journal reminds me of one of the paintings we have at Conway Art.  It’s a great work by Renaissance Man, Don Bingham.

It’s not for a lack of magazines I tell you what I did in the dark.

Waiting rooms with magazines were my Achilles heel.  Inevitably there is always a magazine I do not have, or a very old magazine and I absolutely must keep an ad, a photograph or feature, so I would just steal it from the lobby.  I was a thief.

Go figure.

Eventually, my behavior got the best of me.  This is what changed: I started asking (a novel thought)  if I could take/have the magazine; then I also carried other magazines back to that same lobby for their use.

I can remember sneaking magazines into my Louis Vuitton!  Pathetic, I know and stupid.   I can see it now, sunny, beautiful room and they had a two year-old ELLE DECOR with a bedroom I would die to have, but knew I would not remember the visual without the visual.  Or, that’s what I told myself.  Sure.

I still don’t have that bedroom, don’t even know where the ELLE DECOR is!

Isn’t this a little like life sometimes?  We take those pens from work or copy paper, don’t return our messages or call in sick when we are not sick?  — cough, cough — I know I have. 

Or, we tell ourselves it’s okay to miss a friends birthday party, or a funeral, that we won’t be missed. But we are missed, someone knows and wonders where we are and why we aren’t there.

I can tell you even tho’ I was deep in grief at my Mother’s funeral I KNEW who was at the funeral and the graveside. It made such a difference.  Friends Deborah Evans Price and Vernell Hackett drove all night to be there even tho’ I told them it was not necessary to make the drive from Nashville, Tn.  They never listen!  Thankfully.

NOW I understand.  Having them drive all night to be with me for a few hours was more comforting than they will ever kinow.  

Deborah, being interviewed for a Religion & Ethics feature on PBS.

Deborah PBS

Deborah accepting a Dove Award for Alan Jackson. DEP accepting for Alan Jackson

Vernell, signing copies of one of her books!

VH book signing

If these busy women can show up, so can we!

We are missed when we don’t show or we think no one sees what we do/don’t do.  I am certain others saw me steal some of those magazines, and I remember years ago when I didn’t show up for a party, thought I wouldn’t be missed, was told the hostess cried when I didn’t show.

There are legitimate reasons for some things, for others it’s greed or laziness or maybe we are just tired.  I’m trying to make extra efforts for friends, go out of my comfort zone now, because that’s part of my Authentic Grace.

Head in the sand is just pretending no one knows.  That’s the fallacy. To be Authentic, give Grace, we must not hide.  EVER.  Authentic Public Relations practitioners, above reproach, will be untouchable in the marketplace.

…and if you want any magazines, you know where I am!

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