When the television show HEE HAW was in full swing I was lucky enough to be involved. The only person who can make me laugh more than being on set during a HEE HAW shoot is Mark Lowry, so you can only imagine how much fun we had ‘working’…
Mark Lowry on Broadway, great show at NYC’s Beacon Theatre.
My favorite place to ‘hang out’ was always the make-up room. It was there I met K.T. Oslin; Johnny and June Carter Cash, so many others. Needing glasses during this time, too scared to wear contacts, I went without both. Vain much?
HEE HAW’s Pickin’ and a Grinnin’
K.T. Oslin is AMAZING
Johnny Cash, June Carter Cash & George Lindsey
Marie Osmond was there one day with her soon-to-be husband, Brian Blosil. Passing the make-up-room on my way to one of the dressing rooms, thought the person I was meeting was in the make-up chair. Standing in the doorway, she was maybe five feet from me. Looking directly at her — I waved — letting her know I was in the house. She did not acknowledge my wave. So I waved again, assuming she had not seen me. Staring, probably trying to think – who is that person waving at me? Maybe she’s having a blank stare, I thought to myself, so I waved a third time. Still not responding, I waved a fourth time, squinting to see better. Finally realizing she was not who I was there for, instead, it was Marie Osmond in that make-up chair!
Realizing my mistake, I said “Oh, sorry, I thought you were someone else”. (Dumb in and of itself!)
Was I really sorry? NO, since I went directly into the HEE HAW girls’ dressing room laughing ALOT, telling the story. Then, we all laughed (& laughed) even more.
No, I wasn’t really sorry.
Why did I say “Oh sorry”? It’s natural when we strive to be kind, to say sorry. Too casually sometimes.
There’s a saying “If you don’t like someone you will get mad at the way they hold their fork; but if you like them, they can turn a bowl of spaghetti on top of your head and you won’t care.”
As an over thinker, if I need to say I’m sorry, will analyze the situation to death. How else can it be prevented a second time? I always want to understand why something happened and the reason. It takes time, though.
A couple of years ago, needing to apologize to someone, spent several days analyzing what happened before putting it in writing. My apology was not accepted, rather, was told they didn’t feel sincerity. Really? Really.
A face-to-face was refused, so, I apologized in writing again …. and then again ….yet they came back with the need for another apology, didn’t feel what I said was sufficient. At that point, seeking counsel, told to drop it because nothing would appease someone who really didn’t want to resolve the issue. So, I let go.
Guess they didn’t like the way I held my fork.
We do not have control over another accepting our apology. We ONLY have control over what we say, and if it’s authentic. We must be at peace with our words, because that’s all we have. An authentic apology is all that matters, NOT the way we hold our fork.